No, long term stability is not "what it is all about".
Long term stability is one of the very important aspects of the quality of parenting, but it's not all of them.
In fact long term stability is itself determined to some extent by the nature of the relationships between each parent and the child or children.
The point of my question was to help each person who wants to think about this issue clarify their ideas by asking themselves whether it's the nature of the relationship between the "parents" that's the issue, or whether it just matters that there is some sort of strong bond, whatever that may be.
I'm not trying to lead anyone to on conclusion or other, just point out a thought experiment that might help people understand their own points of view.
Long term stability is one of the very important aspects of the quality of parenting, but it's not all of them.
In fact long term stability is itself determined to some extent by the nature of the relationships between each parent and the child or children.
The point of my question was to help each person who wants to think about this issue clarify their ideas by asking themselves whether it's the nature of the relationship between the "parents" that's the issue, or whether it just matters that there is some sort of strong bond, whatever that may be.
I'm not trying to lead anyone to on conclusion or other, just point out a thought experiment that might help people understand their own points of view.