That just moves the goal posts by a level, doesn't it? What's the chance you have a low stress upbringing that allows you to work towards such goals? Parents who are supportive and believe in that middle class dream, teachers who don't give up on you when you misbehave, enough comfort to not have to focus on immediate concerns?
You can't rationally compare the life chances of someone whose parents are billionaires - with access to that network, and the best schooling, and discussions about investing over dinner - with someone born in a shack without a book in the house.
An incredibly tiny number of people will be able to do well from a near-zero start. And most will do it by being aggressively self-serving narcissists.
Everyone else is going to have a much tougher time.
A reasonable attitude, but one that you would only arrive at if you were fortunate enough to pick the right books to begin with. Or the right teachers.
The point is you have a choice, and you're old enough to know if following your parents' advice is a good idea or not. At 18 it's time to grow up and take responsibility for your life.
Have you never someone who thought they had to please their parents well into adulthood?
On one hand, yes, on paper you are free when you are 18.
On the other hand, you can't be free without some sort of confidence that you'll be ok if you don't do what your parents say. And if your parents are the domineering kind, they'll have made good use of your first 18 years to keep you in their orbit.
Real life is complicated, not everyone has clarity, especially at that age.
Young people reject their parents all the time. A pervasive issue in parenting is the kids refuse to listen to the parents. Movies about it are quite popular - see "Dirty Dancing", "Saturday Night Fever", on and on and on.
I'm not buying the lack of agency of young people. It's just another excuse for choosing the easy way.
If you are not where you want to be in life, have you done anything today to move towards that goal? If you've done nothing, then choose better. It's your life, not mine. Complaining about not being a billionaire's son is a waste of your life.
If you're in the US, of sound mind and body, and over 18, there's never been a time in history with more opportunity for you. If you refuse to see it, nobody can help you. But just think about all those migrants with nothing walking thousands of miles with the hope of getting into the US.
I know a fair few of those people, except they didn't walk to the west, they sailed. Basically my parents, and my aunts and uncles.
Like I said elsewhere, it's a good attitude that you can do it, but it's not actually realistic that you can. People learn this the hard way in sports for example. We aren't all going to starting QB, there's only 32 of those jobs.
> "Dirty Dancing", "Saturday Night Fever"
Movies from back before the drawbridge came up.
> Complaining about not being a billionaire's son is a waste of your life.
Well I actually went to school with a billionaire's kid, and I never thought I'd rather have his life. Nor did anyone else.
There's also a fair bit of gap between "oh why am I not a prince" and "everything I'm good at or want to do will cost me a huge amount of debt".
> What do they know that you don't?
People are mistaken about how other countries are all the time. Do you think Western defectors to the communist blocks were never disappointed?
Keep in mind not everyone knows everything, even after they turn 18.
If you think there's so much opportunity, why is it that people are complaining about the lack of it? Perhaps they've actually tried to search for them and couldn't find any?
Yes, they pretty much are. Extremely complicated, organic, robots. But that is not the point. Your choices depend on your personality and abilities, which in turn depend on your upbringing and experiences.
And you would be wrong every single time because free will is an illusion.
That aside, people always make the best choices they can – no one chooses to chose badly. You can't blame them for not making a better choice since you can't expect anyone to do something they cannot.
I can't tell you the number of nights I told myself "I should go to bed early" knowing I would get a good nights sleep and do better at work the next day but chose to stay up late playing video games.
I chose to choose badly, I knew better, and I accept the blame (and consequences).
(This also comes into play when I make food/exercise choices btw. I certainly do not make the best choices I can on a daily basis)
No you didn't, you were unable to make the better choice (likely because of limited willpower). No mentally healthy person intentionally makes bad choices, that would be self-harm.
I think the more apt phrase is "I lack the discipline".
I do think there is a level of fooling myself when do choose badly, thinking "It'll be fine, no big deal", when down deep I know it will cause a problem.
Mentally healthy people make bad choices all the time, knowing they will pay for it later, but wanting to enjoy "the now".
I think you’re getting close to arguing that there is no free will and that everything in the universe is therefore luck or randomness. Perhaps one way to look at it is that even if humans philosophically are robots, the ones who sacrifice more (via hard work) deserve different, better outcomes.
