She couldn't really expect him to be the sole breadwinner for the family, and do all the housework, and be always there for her emotional needs. There has to be some give and take. I'm not sure why his request for a reasonably equitable partnership would be considered abuse?

These are, most likely, the issues that lead to the demise of the relationship in the first place. It is the only way their living arrangement would be able to continue at all.